Growth Mindset Podcast

125: How to do relationships - Jonathan Aslay - Relationships coach and author - 'What the heck is self love anyway'

July 13th, 2020

Jonathon Aslay

The focus of one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coaches has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE.

After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation.

Jonathon realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love.

Today, Jonathon is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world, and his new podcast, What Would Love Do?

Jonathon and What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway?

What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?


My name is Sam Harris. I am a British entrepreneur, investor and explorer. From hitchhiking across Kazakstan to programming AI doctors I am always pushing myself in the spirit of curiosity and Growth. My background is in Biology and Psychology with a passion for improving the world and human behaviour. I have built and sold companies from an early age and love coming up with unique ways to make life more enjoyable and meaningful.



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What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?

You have to love YOURSELF first before you can love another, but what the heck does that even mean? If you're like Jonathon, you might tune out or get annoyed with the idea of self-love.

In this no-fluff, straight forward book, Jonathon created a simple approach to answering one of life's most important questions.

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

How to Win Friends & Influence People

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